Getting Stuck In Between Always Hurts…
Like when your finger gets stuck between the door and the door jamb. Awww! That hurts! A lot.
It’s the same with relationships, when people are stuck in between being lovers and being friends. The gray area is not a safe place – it makes people confused and insecure.
Sometimes, when we like someone so much, we allow ourselves to stay in the gray area – the “no commitment” zone. It makes you free from any responsibilities to the other person and gives you no “right” over the person. You are, after all, “not official”.
This situation gave birth to the Friendster status “It’s complicated”. For me, it’s the shorter term for “friends with benefits” – for people who are confused, unsure where they stand in the relationship or those who are afraid of commitment, or are in difficult situations where they are not allowed to tell the whole world about what’s going on between them. But why do we have to give a damn about these “labels” anyway?
Simple. To avoid confusion and everything that comes along with it.
You like someone so much that you don’t care that the other person didn’t express his clear intentions. Somehow, you get too comfortable with each other that “sometimes” you cross the thin line of being friends and lovers.
Why am I talking about this now? It’s because a close friend is in the same situation and she’s so stuck.
A piece of advice: Don’t stay in the gray area dear. Talk to him about it and choose between black and white.
Disclaimer: I am not a relationship guru. Obviously, I’m not good at relationships. Haha. If you take my piece of advise, know that it’s a big risk you are taking. Good Luck!